Stress in Children
relaxation techniques that work for adults may not be easy enough for that child to implement. Children possess an innate ability to visualize and use their imaginations. These are great tools that can be effective in helping them relieve stress. I have found that storytelling is very effective in helping children deal with many issues they may be experiencing because they can visualize the story and use their imagination to relate the story to themselves. It is an indirect way of pointing out to the child his or her own struggles without putting too much pressure on the child. Sometimes, when parents try to sit down and have a "serious" conversation with children, it only stresses the child out more out of a sense of being scrutinized or reprimanded. Telling a story the child can relate to is a better way of addressing stress.
What you'll find in this section on stress in children are different stories designed specifically for helping children ages 2-10 years old deal with stress. The stories tackle various dilemmas and are solution-focused. Caregivers should ask the child to close his or her eyes while the story is read to them and asked to imagine the characters and places described in the story. Once the story is finished, this is a good opportunity for caregivers to talk about what happened in the story with their child and help the child problem solve relevant issues that might be going on.
"I have no special talents. I am only passionately curious."
~ Albert Einstein
No one is immune to stress. We all carry the burden of some form of stress. Unfortunately, children may not be able to fully communicate what's troubling them, or even understand it. We are living in stressful times. Parents who hold jobs outside the home are wondering how much longer they'll be employed. The problem: children share in their parents' stress in addition to their own personal growing pains.
Stress in children can take on many forms. Some may be dealing with separation anxiety when her parents leave for work. Some may be seeing more of their parents due to job loss. Some may be having trouble going off to school for the first time (another form of separation anxiety.) Bullying, learning disabilities, poor marriages, lofty parental expectations, lack of attention, and fear of the dark/bedtime are some causes of stress in children.
I feel this is an issue which requires the efforts of all: parents, children, professionals and yes, the insight of outsiders. Though I am not a parent, I was once a child and certainly have my own retrospective. Stress in children is real. When a child speaks, listen. In addition, we all need to be mindful of our words and behavior in the presence of children. They see and hear more than we think.
I feel I have spent too much of my life being afraid. I wasted a great deal of precious time (some alone, some in the presence of loved ones) being afraid. In hindsight, I wish I had been able to better communicate my stress as a child.
I've begun a series of children's short stories which I hope will facilitate communication between parents and children. I also hope these stories teach children to confront and overcome their fears sooner rather than later in life. I believe that for every problem there is a solution. I know from personal experience that "small" childhood issues can grow up into adult problems. I also know that it feels great to overcome fear. Join me in the next installment as I introduce parents, children and children at heart to the enchanted world of Captain Nesty Von Resty!
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- Ted Stefanski
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by Max Ehrmann
Go placidly amid the noise and the haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible, without surrender, be on good terms with all persons. Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even to the dull and the ignorant; they too have their story. Avoid loud and aggressive persons; they are vexatious to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain or bitter, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself. Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans. Keep interested in your own career, however humble; it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs, for the world is full of trickery. But let this not blind you to what virtue there is; many persons strive for high ideals, and everywhere life is full of heroism. Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love, for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be. And whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life, keep peace in your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams, it is still a beautiful world. Be cheerful. Strive to be happy.