I'm lazy so I stopped setting the bar so high
admit I'm a pretty lazy person. I enjoy vegging in front of the TV. I
really love lounging around on a lazy Sunday. Knowing that I have to put
in effort to get what I really want seems daunting, at times. I think
most people can relate to this. Many people fail to achieve their goals,
whether it be a weight loss goal or a work goal, because they set the
bar too high. But, aren't we taught from childhood to set the bar high
for ourselves? Yes, we are. But, setting the bar too high often results
in quitting or not even getting started in the first place on achieving
our goals. So many of us have the misconception that working on goals
needs to be an all or nothing process.
dieting for example. Monday comes along, and you're gung ho about your
resolution to eat healthy foods. Three o'clock rolls around and someone
brings in doughnuts to get through the afternoon slump. You decide to
eat a doughnut and think, "Oh, screw it! Might as well have another one.
I'll start my diet tomorrow." Tomorrow arrives with a similar
experience and you think, "Well, I'll wait until next week to start."
But there's a birthday party coming up or a holiday. The point is there
will always be some occasion on the horizon that merits eating a
Unfortunately, we tend to think that we have to either be 100%
healthy or 100% unhealthy. We think we should either eat only healthy
foods or only unhealthy foods.
This same thinking creeps in with so many
things we do in life. We either exercise for 30 minutes a day or not at
all. We either clean the whole house or not at all. We either complete
all our errands or none at all. You get the point. It's this "all or
nothing" thinking that tends to lead people down the path of
procrastination and failure.
I've fallen into this "all or nothing"
thinking many times. I call it the "Perfection Myth." We believe that we
have to complete things in a "perfect" way or not at all. I've had many
gym memberships that have gone to waste because of the perfection myth.
Just think of the all the home gym equipment collecting dust right now -
or, better yet, being used to hang clothes on.
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Why does this happen? People are usually excited when they first get their new gym equipment. "This is going to be the beginning of a new healthy lifestyle." A couple of weeks into the new treadmill routine, and reality starts to set in. "I don't have time to exercise today. I'll do it tomorrow." But, you know how the story goes. Tomorrow never comes. Before you know it, that piece of gym equipment is looking like the vestige of a sunken ship sprouting barnacles.
Can the perfection myth be tamed? I think so. As I've mentioned, I'm lazy. This is what works for me. I've given up on setting the bar so high for myself. So, I've decided to set the bar low. - so low that I'm successful. To give you some examples, if someone were to tell me I needed to exercise 30 minutes today, my knee-jerk reaction would be, "I don't have 30 minutes to spare." But, if someone were to tell me I needed to exercise for one minute today, I'd think, "Okay, I can do one minute of exercise."
The brain is very adept at picking up on patterns and creating "apps" to help automate our thoughts and actions. By exercising for one minute each day, the brain has the amazing ability to pick up on this new habit and find other one-minute occasions for exercise. You can think of lowering the bar in this way as setting up mini goals for yourself. Mini goals are easily achieved and lend themselves to being done with more consistency than big goals. Exercising for only one minute will not train my body for a marathon, but that's not what I'm looking for. In my case, one minute of exercise is better than no minutes of exercise.
I set mini goals for myself all the time, not just to manage stress, but to manage almost everything. Another example is cleaning the house. Just thinking about cleaning the house makes me tired. It's something I would put off all the time until the house reached critical mass and really needed attention. So, what I do now is clean the house in parts. I don't have time to clean the entire house today, but I can manage to clean the powder room. Tomorrow, I have time to clean some mirrors. The next day, I may do a little dusting.
Setting up mini goals can really protect you from really stressful situations resulting from procrastination. Think about all the poor souls who put off getting their tax info together until the eleventh hour. No one likes to think about getting tax stuff together. Again, it's mostly because we think we have to either get it all done today or not at all. Guess what happens? Most people go for the "not at all" option but end up doing it all when the pressure's really on. There is another option available, a very simple one. Get some tax info together - not all the required info, but some. I find that setting time limits is extremely helpful. I don't want to work on taxes for hours on end, but I'm willing to give 15 minutes. Setting mini goals with time limits is a surefire way to beat procrastination.
Why am I saying all of this? Because lowering the bar and setting mini goals is a great approach to manage stress. People tend to believe they have to resolve all stressful issues in their lives in order to be happy. I tended to feel this way about my own shyness. I felt for so long that people are either outgoing or they're not. I knew I definitely was not outgoing. I often wondered what it would be like to feel self-confident and speak my own mind without caring. Somehow I believed the notion that self-confidence had to mean self-confidence to the extreme. A self-confident person should feel confident no matter what the situation. That's why I resigned myself to being shy for so long. I had the perfection myth deeply instilled in my brain.
Over time, though, something wonderful happened. I started to give little public speeches on the topic of stress. When I first started doing this, I never gave much thought to how this was helping me. I would give my little talks and really enjoyed them. I got better and better at presenting classes to small groups, and my confidence grew exponentially. It dawned on me one day that I was accomplishing a lot through this mini step. I realized for me this was all I needed. To be confident didn't require me to deliver speeches to crowds of thousands. I wasn't doomed to being shy. I could let my voice be heard. I'm no Tony Robins. But, I realize now that I don't have to be anyone else but myself to be my best. I can optimize who I am and my unique assets.
So can you...
What I know is life goes up and down. Sometimes, we have a collection of little stressors that gnaw at us. At other times, we have major crises that bring us down. Then we have the periods of tranquility, during which some of us may actually worry about what's going to stress us out next! At any rate, we will always know stress in one form or another. It's better to do something to manage stress than to give up.
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