Manage stress and difficult emotions by going through them instead of fighting against them.
- Are you fed up with stress, weight gain, smoking, fears, pain, and other shitty things?
- Does it feel like willpower just doesn't work?
- Are you struggling with feeling powerless?
- Have you tried to solve the problems in your life on your own and realized you need help from someone or something else?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you have made the right choice by being here.
I know this is hard. You've likely been debating trying "one more thing" for months, if not years. But, I'm so glad you found me and have taken the courageous step of being here.
UNDERSTAND. HEAL. GROW.
WE CAN DO THIS TOGETHER.
Stress relief, where are you?
Maybe you've heard some of the same advice I have:
- Be more positive
- Raise your "vibration"
- Attract what you want from the universe
So, if good things happen to you, it's because you're focusing on the right things. But, if bad things happen, is it because you're not keeping your "vibration" high enough?
(By the way, DO NOT TAKE THAT ADVICE!)
When you start to manage stress, it does not mean bad things stop happening to good people. Shit keeps happening no matter who or where you are.
No one is happy all the time!
We are meant to experience stress.
We are meant to be angry.
We are meant to be sad.
We are meant to be happy.
We are meant to experience every emotion humanly possible.
To manage stress and give our feelings the appropriate expression is how we can think, feel, and do our best - no matter what is happening.
on a daily treasure hunt for techniques to manage stress. I'm all too familiar with stress and its friend, anxiety,
and I don't like either one of them! If you're anything like I am,
you've spent a lot of time despising those dreaded "stressed out"
feelings. You know the ones: Swimming thoughts that can do laps around
any Olympian, the butterfly collection in your stomach, tidal waves of
heart palpitations, Niagara Sweat Falls, etc. The list goes on and on...
also spent a lot of time trying to make these feelings go away. I've
done a lot of wishing and hoping to no longer be stressed and to be
self-assured and at ease with whatever comes my way. Oh, to be as cool
as a cucumber! Thus far, no one has figured out how to make stress
vanish. So, let's stop wasting any more time on trying to banish
stress. Let's manage stress. Unless you live in a bubble somewhere - and
even bubbles burst - there will always be stress. Instead, decide to
take on a new approach to stress. Rather than trying to make stress go
away, try to understand it - kind of like keeping your friends close and
your enemies closer.
maybe "enemy" is too strong a word to describe stress. Maybe "frienemy"
is more accurate. At any rate, dealing with stress is like hitting a
patch of ice on the road. Your knee-jerk reaction may be to swerve to
avoid the ice only to spin out of control. A better approach is to take
your foot off the gas pedal. Take your foot off the brake, too. Face
the ice with fortitude and glide over it.
I'm lazy so I stopped setting the bar so high
admit I'm a pretty lazy person. I enjoy vegging in front of the TV. I
really love lounging around on a lazy Sunday. Knowing that I have to put
in effort to get what I really want seems daunting, at times. I think
most people can relate to this. Many people fail to achieve their goals,
whether it be a weight loss goal or a work goal, because they set the
bar too high. But, aren't we taught from childhood to set the bar high
for ourselves? Yes, we are. But, setting the bar too high often results
in quitting or not even getting started in the first place on achieving
our goals. So many of us have the misconception that working on goals
needs to be an all or nothing process.
To give you some examples, if someone were to tell me I
needed to exercise 30 minutes today, my knee-jerk reaction would be, "I
don't have 30 minutes to spare." But, if someone were to tell me I
needed to exercise for one minute today, I'd think, "Okay, I can do one
minute of exercise."
Why does this happen? People are
usually excited when they first get their new gym equipment. "This is
going to be the beginning of a new healthy lifestyle." A couple of weeks
into the new treadmill routine, and reality starts to set in. "I don't
have time to exercise today. I'll do it tomorrow." But, you know how the
story goes. Tomorrow never comes. Before you know it, that piece of gym
equipment is looking like the vestige of a sunken ship sprouting
This same thinking creeps in with so many
things we do in life. We either exercise for 30 minutes a day or not at
all. We either clean the whole house or not at all.
We either complete all our errands or none at all. You get the point. It's this "all or nothing" thinking that tends to lead people down the path of procrastination and failure.
I've fallen into this "all or nothing" thinking many times. I call it the "Perfection Myth." We believe that we have to complete things in a "perfect" way or not at all. I've had many gym memberships that have gone to waste because of the perfection myth. Just think of the all the home gym equipment collecting dust right now - or, better yet, being used to hang clothes on.
Can the perfection myth be tamed? I think so. As I've mentioned, I'm lazy. This is what works for me. I've given up on setting the bar so high for myself. So, I've decided to set the bar low - so low that I'm successful.
brain is very adept at picking up on patterns and creating "apps" to
help automate our thoughts and actions. By exercising for one minute
each day, the brain has the amazing ability to pick up on this new habit
and find other one-minute occasions for exercise. You can think of
lowering the bar in this way as setting up mini goals for yourself. Mini
goals are easily achieved and lend themselves to being done with more
consistency than big goals.
Exercising for only one minute will not
train my body for a marathon, but that's not what I'm looking for. In my
case, one minute of exercise is better than no minutes of exercise.
set mini goals for myself all the time, not just to manage stress, but
to manage almost everything. Another example is cleaning the house. Just
thinking about cleaning the house makes me tired. It's something I
would put off all the time until the house reached critical mass and
really needed attention. So, what I do now is clean the house in parts. I
don't have time to clean the entire house today, but I can manage to
clean the powder room. Tomorrow, I have time to clean some mirrors. The
next day, I may do a little dusting.
up mini goals can really protect you from really stressful situations
resulting from procrastination. Think about all the poor souls who put
off getting their tax info together until the eleventh hour. No one
likes to think about getting tax stuff together. Again, it's mostly
because we think we have to either get it all done today or not at all.
Guess what happens? Most people go for the "not at all" option but end
up doing it all when the pressure's really on. There is another option
available, a very simple one. Get some tax info together - not all the
required info, but some. I find that setting time limits is extremely
helpful. I don't want to work on taxes for hours on end, but I'm willing
to give 15 minutes. Setting mini goals with time limits is a surefire
way to beat procrastination.
Why am I saying all of this?
Because lowering the bar and setting mini goals is a great approach to
People tend to believe they have to resolve all stressful
issues in their lives in order to be happy. I tended to feel this way
about my own shyness. I felt for so long that people are either outgoing
or they're not.
I knew I definitely was not outgoing. I often wondered
what it would be like to feel self-confident and speak my own mind
without caring. Somehow I believed the notion that self-confidence had
to mean self-confidence to the extreme.
A self-confident person should
feel confident no matter what the situation. That's why I resigned
myself to being shy for so long. I had the perfection myth deeply
instilled in my brain.
Over time, though, something wonderful
happened. I started to give little public speeches on the topic of
stress. When I first started doing this, I never gave much thought to
how this was helping me. I would give my little talks and really enjoyed
them. I got better and better at presenting classes to small groups,
and my confidence grew exponentially. It dawned on me one day that I was
accomplishing a lot through this mini step. I realized for me this was
all I needed. To be confident didn't require me to deliver speeches to
crowds of thousands. I wasn't doomed to being shy. I could let my voice
be heard. I'm no Tony Robins. But, I realize now that I don't have to be
anyone else but myself to be my best. I can optimize who I am and my
So can you...
I know is life goes up and down. Sometimes, we have a collection of
little stressors that gnaw at us. At other times, we have major crises
that bring us down. Then we have the periods of tranquility, during
which some of us may actually worry about what's going to stress us out
next! At any rate, we will always know stress in one form or another.
It's better to do something to manage stress than to give up.
What kind of tools will you find to manage stress here?
You'll find a comprehensive guide to help you manage stress. You'll discover
many techniques for harnessing the power of your thoughts so you can
gain control. Not all stress benefits from a "calm down" approach.
Relaxation techniques can be beneficial, but sometimes your stress might
require more of an "energy releasing" or active approach. At other
moments, we need a really good laugh to diffuse stress.
every technique works for everyone and every "body" to manage stress.
The work involved in stress management comes in figuring out what helps
YOU the most. Whatever works, works. The good news is that this really
is a go-to site for finding the right fit for you. There are so many
strategies to help manage stress here that you're bound to find the
find a curation of the best of the best techniques, insights and
products to help you manage stress. You'll learn effective strategies
to manage stress such as diaphragmatic breathing, progressive muscle
relaxation, visualization, mindfulness, humor, exercise, healthy eating,
aromatherapy, and (my favorite) hypnotherapy
- just to name a few!
easy and quick methods to manage stress, so that's what you'll find
here. As with anything else in life, habits get easier with practice.
You can retrain your brain. You can do this!
Let's Manage Stress Together...
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