Building Confidence by Being Daring
If you've been working hard at building confidence - goodness knows I have! - try starting out with being more daring. If you ask several people what it means to be confident, you’ll likely get a wide variety of answers. People have visions in their head about what confidence means and often it is attributable to a type of person. For instance, many people think that people who are tall are confident. What do you think when the term comes to mind?
While we may have preconceived notions as to who we feel are confident people, confidence is more about attitude and conviction. You’ll find plenty of people who fall outside those preconceived notions all the time.
Building Confidence Is About Repetition
Building confidence is also about repetition. For instance, if you continually use affirmations about yourself, your confidence is likely to increase over time. The key is to use them consistently.
Confidence becomes a type of feedback loop. When you become more confident, people will latch onto that and react in a positive way. This reinforces what you have done and you will continue to do it.
While confidence is a good trait to have, it’s important not
to overdo it. You don’t want to come across as cocky and conceited. This will turn people off and your efforts to
be more confident will be shunted.
It does take some daring to be confident because it’s easier
not to be this way. When we gain confidence, it may require that your actions
take you outside your comfort zone. It may even bring you to taking stands that
are not popular and may be controversial. You want to be liked, but sometimes confidence allows us to do the right thing,
even if everyone won’t be happy about it.
What you will find as you gain your confidence is you’ll dare
to live a better life. Make no mistakes, your life will change. People will be more drawn to you and you will get more done
with their help. You will also get what you want more often. It’s exciting and
scary at the same time. But, it will be satisfying in the long run.
There will be some people that try to bring you down. When
people recognize that you are confident, it has the potential to threaten their
world. Your confidence may cause them to step outside their own comfort zone and not everyone is ready for
that. However, you have to live your own
life and not worry too much if those people are affected by your changes.
Building Confidence to Gain More Friends
When you start building confidence, winning new
friends becomes easy. If fact, it will attract people almost automatically.
People love others who exude confidence. Think about the people you work with. Do you tend to naturally migrate towards confident people?
It’s important not to take your
confidence too far where you are looked
upon as being arrogant. This has the
potential to turn people off more than win any friendships. Overconfident
people are seen as unwavering and others
tend to avoid these types. It’s not necessary either. The key is to be yourself
without stepping on others.
Believing in yourself is the first
step towards gaining confidence. Everyone has some amount of self-doubt but you
need to get over it. Start by observing others who you feel are confident. What
qualities do they possess? Do they talk about themselves or do you find them
talking about others in a positive way? Do others get excited when those
confident people enter the room?
Sometimes, confidence comes from
learning new skills. If you know what others don’t, people will come to you
when they learn you have those skills or knowledge. But, don’t stop at just a cursory level of
knowledge. Become an expert and you will have the confidence necessary when
people do approach you. It’s okay not to know everything at the beginning,
don’t pretend like you do. But, as long as you continue on the path of learning
more, it will serve you well.
Building confidence also comes from knowing
the strength of others and using it to help them as well as you. If you are
part of a team, get to know what others are good at on your team. Then, when
you come across those attributes in your job, you can rely on their expertise.
They will appreciate you for recognizing their abilities.
Help others who are not good at
something but show a willingness to learn. These people will become allies, and
they too will appreciate your efforts to help. They will become part of your
network and will talk you up to others.
Friendship will happen when you
gain a confidence in your life and work. It will seem effortless and you will
end up with more friends than you know what to do
with. That is certainly a better problem to have than having no friends
at all. Don’t be surprised if you get approached by unknown people saying that
your friends have recommended you.
Building Confidence Goes Hand-In-Hand with Building Trust
If you have had a difficult time trusting yourself, it may be a sign that you lack confidence. You cannot develop any trust without confidence. Feel secure in your abilities and be strong in your convictions. But, know when you are wrong as well.
The above requires you to develop confidence. That may seem scary to you. However, it’s not as difficult as you think. No one is born with confidence. It is something people learn and develop during their lives. It’s the same for you. Take steps to develop your confidence and trusting yourself will become easy.
Fear is the biggest detractor from confidence. When you give into your fears, you will diminish the chances of building up your confidence.
That is something that deepens if you don’t handle it quickly. You need to face your fears head-on.
mean you should throw caution to the wind and be reckless. You should take
chances but only if they won’t put your life or others’ lives in danger. You
would not jump out of a plane without a parachute. Don’t make frivolous
decisions, either. Confidence is about knowing the difference.
Start out with small tasks that you
have been afraid to try in the past. Most outcomes will turn out better than
you imagine. If you try to project what will happen, and it is always a
negative outcome, you will never make any decisions. Take on those small tasks
without thinking too much about what’s going to happen. That will build up your confidence as
you’ve never seen before.
You should ask questions when you
aren’t sure about the situations you face. Confidence is not about having all
the answers. It’s about knowing where to find them and who to rely on with the
knowledge that you need. It’s also about pulling the trigger when you have
gathered enough information.
Building confidence is about taking responsibility for your decisions and your actions. If you believe in what you are doing, you can portray that belief to others affected by your decisions. You will come across as being weak if you start blaming others when your situation doesn’t go as planned. Once this happens, others will lose faith in you. That will cause your confidence to erode, and self-doubt will take over. When you make your decisions, you own them, even if they don’t work out.
When you increase your confidence, you will automatically increase trusting yourself. Then, you can accomplish more than you ever imagined.
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