Conquer Your Fear Even When You're Scared to Death
Conquer your fear? Is it possible? YES! Fear is a normal
emotion. Sometimes, it can be beneficial because
it makes you aware of risks, keeps you alert, and improves mental focus.
However, too much fear will have the opposite effect. Don't fret as even the
most successful people experience this feeling. The key is to prevent it from
dictating your actions.
Conquer Your Fear:
Fear comes in many shades...
This human emotion isn't all black and white.
Fear can take many forms, from mild anxiety to downright debilitating
overthinking. Under certain circumstances, it can protect you from danger and
stop impulsive behaviors. But, because it's closely tied into your gut
instinct, it can also help you improve your decision making.
Not all types of fear are good for you. In
fact, this emotion often does more harm than good. It can keep you from
reaching your full potential, fuel procrastination, and cause stress.
Let's say you want to quit your 9-to-5 job and
start a creative agency or work as a freelance web designer. You might be
afraid that you'll lose time and money if things don’t work out as you planned.
What if you won't have enough clients? Or what if you get sick and can't work
The risks are real, so it's normal to experience fear. However, you'll never know
what you're missing if you don't try. Who knows? You might have a huge success
and build a loyal customer base. Five years from now on, you could have enough
money to buy the home of your dreams. Do you want to live your life wondering What if?
Conquer Your Fear:
No matter how hard you try, you’ll never be able
to get rid of fear completely. Instead, you should make it your ally.
Picture yourself reaching your goal, whatever it
is. Imagine the worst-case scenario and then come up with a backup plan. Ask
yourself: what are the facts? Am I making assumptions? What’s the best thing
that can happen? Who can I call for help?
Use your fear as a source of guidance. Assess
your inner fears and seek possible solutions. Using our example above, you
could start a web design side hustle in addition to your regular job. This way,
if your business fails, you'll still have an income. If it keeps growing, turn
it into a full-time job. With this approach, you'll get to do what you want and
Don’t fault yourself for
being afraid of taking that big step--the massive action that needs to happen
to realize your dream! It’s a natural
response to moving out of your comfort zone. But while you shouldn’t rebuke
yourself for feeling fearful, neither should you wallow in it so that you never
get past it. When fear rears it’s ugly head, use these simple tactics to put it
in perspective and move on.
Recognize fear is only a feeling
Fear can feel very, very
real. But it’s only an emotion that survives and thrives when we dwell on it
and start to believe it. The first step in mastering your fear of taking
massive action is to remember to tell yourself that fear isn’t real--that it’s
only a feeling that can’t hurt you.
Remember, everyone has experienced fear of
Everyone experiences fear
before they try something new. Think Tony Robbins hasn’t experienced fear of
failure? Sure he has, and I’m sure he would tell you that himself. Everyone has
experienced fear of failure, the fear of looking like a fool, the fear of
losing friends when you become too famous, too wealthy, too thin, or whatever.
When a moment of panic comes over you, image your role model and remember that
they too have experienced fear. But they moved through it anyway.
Take the first mini step to conquer your fear
We’ve all heard Newton’s
1st Law of Motion: A body at rest tends to stay at rest, while a body in motion
tends to stay in motion. Notice that feeling of fear, and then take that first
small step in spite of it. You will feel amazing after you’ve done that one
little thing. You’ll realize that you can do it, and you’ll be excited to take
that next step. Fear will be replaced by enthusiasm!
Use a lifeline to conquer your fear
Sometimes we recognize
fear for what it is, but can’t seem to get over the hurdle anyway. That’s the
right time to call in some reinforcements. Get a hold of a friend, colleague or
family member who is totally on board with your goal. Buy them a cup of coffee
and talk to them about your feelings. Use them as a sounding board, ask for
their advice or just come on out and ask for a pep talk! This person loves you
and has faith that you can achieve your goal, so you don’t need to worry about
being embarrassed to tell them that fear has you in a paralyzing grip! They
will support you through each step you take; sometimes all we need is to hear a
person we love and admire tell us it will be all right.
Conquer Your Fear:
Get a Grip on Self-Doubt
Did you know that a whopping 85 percent of people have low-esteem? This
issue affects their personal and professional lives, including their careers,
their health, and their salaries. In other words, self-doubt and low
self-esteem can keep you from reaching your peak potential and being able to conquer your fear.
These personality traits appear to be more common
among women. They develop in childhood and either exacerbate or diminish with
time. If self-doubt plagues you, check out these tips to boost your confidence
and trust yourself more:
Self-doubt is part of being human. Embrace it and
turn it into a strength. When used correctly, this personality trait can help
you make better decisions, instead of rushing things. Think of it as a tool
that guides your actions and keeps you from making costly mistakes.
Just make sure you don't overuse it though
because self-doubt can also make you question your sanity and decision-making
Even the most successful people have doubts. They
often question their actions and wonder what the right thing to do is.
Focus on building your confidence and
self-esteem. You might never get rid of doubts, but you can stop them from
taking over your life.
Your doubts don't necessarily reflect the truth.
Most times, they mirror your fears and emotional struggles. Think about your
achievements and how hard you worked to get where you are today. Be proud of
yourself and admire your capabilities.
Whenever you're in doubt, get the facts straight.
Research the problem in question, weigh the pros and cons and ask for a second opinion.
Make a list of things you excel in. Write down
your skills and accomplishments. Accept praise from others gracefully and
acknowledge your talent.
Celebrate your strengths every single day.
Make positive affirmations and remind yourself how much you've done so far.
Stop thinking of what you could have done better.
Negative people can drag you down and ruin your
self-esteem. Nothing will ever be good enough for them. That's why it's so
important to surround yourself with positive people who support you and listen
to you instead of judging.
Define Your Values
Lastly, define your values and the values you live by daily. Once you establish those, you will have a more realistic perspective of the current situation. Focus on the things that drive your actions and are at the core of your beliefs.
Stop questioning your own decisions. Don’t waste time over-analyzing. Trust your actions and put your plans in motion. You got this!
The key to conquer your fear is in control and emotional mastery. Your emotions
shouldn’t be what’s holding your back. Of course, it’s okay to feel what you do
when you meet with an obstacle. The key is in not staying there when it’s time
to move forward again because you will move forward again if you keep trying.
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