You Can't Always Get What You Want. So Now What?

What To Do When You Don’t Get What You Want: We've all been told at one point or another how life isn’t fair. While this is true, simply knowing this fact alone still doesn’t make us feel any better when something that we really want seems to avoid us.

However, when this occurs there are ways of handling the situation that are far more productive than taking on an attitude of defeat and feeling sorry for ourselves. Here are a couple of key things to consider during periods of disappointment brought on by not attaining something your heart desires.

You can't always get what you want but...
Appreciate what you DO have:)

Being able to separate the things you need from what you want is extremely important in life. All around the world, there are people constantly deprived of even the most basic things most of us take for granted. While it is in no way wrong to pursue things other than the basic needs, try to avoid getting these things mixed up.

If you will look at each situation in which you don’t get something you want, I can guarantee that if you really think about, you can find something in your life that you DO have to balance it out.

If you were to go through life getting anything and everything you wanted, how much do you think you would appreciate those times when you actually do obtain what you were going for?

You can't always get what you want but...
Dig deep and reflect on why you didn't get it.

As time goes on, we all have situations or things we can look back on that didn’t work out, only to realize that what seemed like a tragedy at the time clearly worked out for the best. Although it can be impossible to realize in the moment, sometimes not getting something serves as a fork in the road, redirecting us to something much better.

Whatever you are feeling like you missed out on, the thing that slipped through your grasp, make an effort to glance up the road. If you do so, you may be able to realize that this failure could very well be for your benefit.

Even if what you wanted may not be harmful or a detriment to your life moving forward, the sheer disappointment of falling short can easily provide the motivation you need to go after something even better!

There are endless examples of people achieving fantastic things and accrediting their success to past failures.


You can't always get what you want but...
I feel the need to try again!

Okay, so what if you have done both of these things, but still honestly believe you are supposed to have the thing that avoided you? If this is the case, regroup and try again! Rest assured, most of the things worth having are not going to come easily. If this were the case, they wouldn’t be nearly as fulfilling when we get them.

If something that you didn’t get or achieve is constantly troubling your mind, this may very well be a sign that it is meant for you, just not right now. Only you can determine whether or not something is right for you.

However, once you have made the decision that it is, be ready to fight for it! I could insert any number of motivational quotes such as “fall seven times, stand up eight” or “fail forward,” but the fact is, the life of a successful individual is filled with failures.

It is how you deal with these failures that separates winning in the long run from going through life resentful and feeling sorry for yourself. Never allow yourself to give up in the pursuit of anything you truly believe is supposed to be yours.


You can't always get what you want, but you can be grateful for what you already have...
25 Positive Affirmations for a Positive Attitude

  1. I can do better, just by deciding to do so.
  2. Life is what I make of it.
  3. I can.
  4. I am above negative thoughts and actions.
  5. Happiness is a choice. I choose it.
  6. Today, I let go of old habits and take up new ones.
  7. I am conquering obstacles every day.
  8. I am seeing a positive in every situation.
  9. My thoughts are becoming more positive each day.
  10.  Life is getting better all the time.
  11.  I am turning into the person I always wanted to be.
  12.  Thinking positively is starting to feel more natural to me.
  13.  My optimism is altering my reality.
  14.  I am at peace with my past and looking forward to the future.
  15.  I no longer fear tomorrow.
  16.  I am blessed.
  17.  This too shall pass.
  18.  I control how I feel.
  19.  I am willing to do what it takes to make positive changes.
  20.  The future is mine, if I choose to take it.
  21.  I belong.
  22.  This moment is awesome.
  23.  Positive thinking is part of who I am now.
  24.  Today is the first day of my new life.
  25.  Everything happens for a reason that serves me.

When you don't get what you want, it's easy to get in the habit of negative communication. Whether it's complaining about your morning commute or not getting enough praise on your job, you can find yourself complaining about everything.

This negative attitude can transcend into every aspect of your life. Soon, you'll find yourself having a negative disposition.

Practice speaking kind words about yourself and what's around you. The old saying, "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it" will definitely come in handy.

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