Make Fear Your Friend: 6 Quick Tips
Make fear your friend: While engaging in our daily neighborhood
walk, Melissa and I have been taking note of the “new batch” of burrowing owls
that have just been born. It’s really special observing these tiny and comical
“potatoes with wings.”
The hatchlings enjoy getting some air
outside the entrance of their nests until humans walk past. They instantly duck
and run for cover back underground. It’s entertaining to watch. The young birds
are awash with fear.
As not too much time passes, these little
characters become braver and begin facing their fear. They stand their ground
as humans draw near, standing tall (in their world) and begin to casually
observe us giants. Some will look back at their parents with a look that says:
“who the heck are these people?”
Their courage finally enables them to
spread their wings and take flight. It certainly beats hiding underground.
What makes me afraid? My wife. She can be very quiet and mild
mannered until I finally get under her skin. One time, she let out a yell that
rivaled the Yeti mating season and threw a shoe. Yes, I’m afraid of my wife.
But moving right along, I’m afraid of public speaking and anything
involving the mastery of extroversion. I become terrified and usually hide in a
corner to observe the gifted ones.
People deal with fear, stress, and anxiety in different ways. Some
people like to be challenged and feed off of it, working well under pressure. Others,
such as myself, want to curl up in the fetal position.
What’s your fear?
Whatever it is, fear is normal. It’s how our body warns us of
dangerous and not so dangerous situations and to be vigilant.
Yet, sometimes, our fears can become so great that they hold us
back from reaching our full potential. We can become so filled with dread and
uncertainty that we soon become constantly stressed and anxious over the
smallest things. One’s world can become smaller if they choose to give in to
On the flip side, fear, in its positive form, can actually inspire
innovative ideas and motivate us to reach new heights.
Today, I am here to help you make fear your friend.
Follow the six
tips below, and you’ll know how to turn what was once your foe into an ally.
Make Fear Your Friend: 6 Quick Tips
1. Identify the Source
This shouldn’t be too difficult. You probably have a list of things that terrify you. In order to make fear your friend, you must come to terms with it. Say out loud that the fear exits and you are ready to overcome it. Being aware of the root cause will be difficult in the beginning, but it’ll make you stronger. You’ll break free from the grasp of fear.
2. Externalize It
Once you’ve identified your fear, embrace it and externalize it by writing it down in a journal or diary. This gets it out of your head and helps you visualize your adversary. You will feel better getting it off your chest and sharing it with the world. You’ll also be surprised to know just how many people are just as afraid as you are.
3. Think Rationally
Fear makes us panic, and panic results in poor decision-making. In fact, studies have shown that when we panic, our prefrontal cortex shuts down. This is the region of our brain responsible for rational thinking. Learning how to think rationally despite our worries is of the utmost importance. Envision a “Stop” sign and breathe.
4. Don’t Give It Too
One of the worst things you can do is give yourself too much time
to think about things. The anticipatory anxiety can do a number on you. Remember,
your mind tends to blow things out of proportion. Anxiety is a master of
Commit to facing your
fear and do so sooner rather than later.
5. Find Support
No one ever failed by having a strong support system. Surround yourself with people who encourage
you to push the envelope a bit. These are the people who don’t mind you venting
about your fears and anxieties. Reaching out for support is nothing to be
If necessary, seek a professional counselor. They can teach you ways
empower yourself by
developing good coping skills which will boost your self-esteem and overall
Just knowing you have a support system can lower stress, anxiety,
6. Envision Success with Hypnosis
What does your life look like once you face your fears? How does
this make you feel? What are your newest accomplishments? Think about how your
life will be limitless in terms of experiencing new things and attaining new
Equally important, consider how your success will affect others.
How will their lives improve? Perhaps you will inspire them to face their own
fears. You never know who may be looking up to you!
I hope you have found these tips to make fear your friend helpful.
Feel free to add any ideas you may have to this list and share it with others
who are struggling.
Help others feed off of your success! ~Ted
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