Overcoming Low Self Esteem: The Power of Being Prepared

Overcoming low self esteem takes work - what doesn't? I surefire way to feel better straight out of the gate is to prepare for new situations. Sounds obvious, but when we get stressed, we tend to lose sight of the simple, most important things we can do to help ourselves.

We all have times when we don’t feel confident or are even worried about what we’re supposed be doing. Often the reason for the worry is that we’re not certain what we should be doing. For example, when you first start a new job, it’s hard to feel confident, particularly if you don’t know much about the job and what’s expected of you. The same goes for other new or unusual tasks as well. The less prepared we are, the harder it becomes to feel confident. The solution is simple. Be prepared.

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Do what you can to be prepared for the situation. The action of preparing alone will make you feel more confident. Of course, the new knowledge you learn and the skills you’re acquiring while you’re preparing doesn’t hurt, either.

Preparing yourself and educating yourself can be a big help here. For example rehearsing and rewriting your speech over and over you can pretty much learn it by heart. There are also breathing techniques that can quickly make you calmer and present.  Simple visualization techniques can make you feel more confident and positive as you step out on the stage.

Hypnosis can also help you both rehearse new situations and help you feel calmer and in control. (You'll find a free hypnosis session below to give you a little boost.)

Start by learning more about what will be expected of you. Talk to the person in charge of hiring you for the new job, chat with future colleagues, have the person currently holding your job give you a quick rundown, and take a tour of the new job site. You can do this same initial information gathering in any other situation where being more prepared will be helpful. If you’re starting college, tour the campus, figure out where your classes will be, and get a course syllabus for each. If you’re becoming a new parent, take classes, read books, hang out with parents of babies, and do a little babysitting yourself to gain experience. If you’re getting ready to spend time in a new country, learn some of the language, meet a few people from there, study the culture, and try some of the food. You get the idea.

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Give it a try the next time you’re in a situation where you don’t know what to do. Instead of letting fear and worry take over, take charge by figuring out what’s expected of you and start learning as much as you can about it. It’s a strategy that’s served me well over the years, and I’m sure it will work for you too.

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