Remain Self-motivated After a Setback

Remain Self-Motivated: You did it! You finally cracked the code on how to be self-motivated. It was no small feat, but now you’re done…right? Sorry, your journey is just beginning. Or, even worse, you may be starting over due to a setback.  

Though not easy, getting started is usually the easiest part of any journey. I have struggled quite a bit throughout my life when it came to remaining self-motivated.

Facing the beast of depression and the aftermath of a suicide attempt was a bit of a setback for me (I’m being a wise-ass). I had to dig very deep and reassess my life. I had to kindle the small flame that somehow still existed within me.  

After agonizing about something long enough, I would finally commit. It was usually about a third of the way into my journey where the setback hit and the mind shitstorm followed. Motivation dwindled and I found myself perched precariously on the edge.


There were times I felt like crumbling and staying down. My mind was laced with exhaustion, anxiety, apathy, confusion, anger, and even a sense of entitlement. I learned very quickly that trying did not entitle success.

The great news is that I discovered ways to keep going. If you’re looking for ways to remain self-motivated after a setback, consider the following:

  • Be Still and Be Kind to Yourself. The first thing you may do when you experience a setback is to get angry with yourself. Self-motivation can become self-deprecation in a matter of seconds. Give yourself a designated period of self-care, maybe even allow yourself to vent and feel down - temporarily!! Be sure to remind yourself of all your accomplishments and qualities.

  • Zoom out. If you’ve gotten this far as a self-motivated individual, for some reason (or many), you decided it was not game over when experienced prior setbacks. You willed yourself to keep going. Try to remember what or who kept you going. Change your interpretation of the setback. Try viewing it as the beginning of a new and better chapter in your life, a chapter for you to conquer. 

  • Redefine Your Approach. When I was in the hospital, I received a great and simple piece of advice. A fellow patient suggested the following: “When you are traveling the road of life, you can either step in the shit or go around it.” I lost count of the number of times I’ve stepped in it. The point is to try and assess what may have contributed to the setback. It may have been out of your control, or, it was something for which you could have planned better. Was this pile of “setback poo” something you could have avoided? 

  • Spend Time with People Who Make You Feel Good. Whatever you do, don’t hang out with the naysayers. Negative people are bloodsuckers who want nothing more than to feed off your emotions and turn you into one of them. Don’t let their regrets become yours. Only keep company with those who lift you up or at least limit the time spent with those who don’t.

  • Reward Yourself at Least Once Daily. I need to be careful with the reward part. I could easily reward myself with honey-maple deli ham more than once a day. I have enough of those deli counter “take a number” tickets that I could stuff a pillow. But seriously, while you’re indulging in self-care, be sure to do at least one positive, uplifting thing daily. Hang out with your dog or cat, play with them, meditate, engage in a hobby you love or begin a new one, experience nature – whatever you deem a reward. 

  • Let the Past be the Past. Don’t allow yourself to ruminate. I used to spend hours thinking about my setback and focused on the pain, anger, and resentment. All that did was keep me stuck in the mud – and the naysayers happy.  

These are the suggestions that work for me. It is my sincere hope that you will give them a try. You have nothing to lose.

Don’t allow that setback poo to become a part of you! ~Ted

Remain Self-Motivated with Hypnosis ~parts adapted via

Do you sometimes find it difficult to complete projects and reach your goals?

Would you like to take action and change your life for the better?

To boost self-motivation is not usually a question of desire. Most of us have an idea of what we would like to do to improve our lives.

But the problem is, when it comes to actually following through with a plan, life just gets in the way.

That kitchen needs tidying, and that TV show must be caught up on. And before you know it, months have passed and you're no closer to achieving your goal.

Defining the real motivation problem

Motivation often gets misattributed. Because we are, in fact, motivated to do plenty of things in our daily lives, such as:

  • Listen to music
  • Eat and drink
  • Keep ourselves hygienically clean
  • Become absorbed in an interesting conversation with someone we like.

So when talking about motivation, it's important to define it properly first. Then you can look at where you want it to be focused.

Leaking motivation to other activities

When you have difficulty with self-motivation, it's not that you lack the capacity to feel motivated. It's because you are more motivated to do other things, even if that's to sit still and watch TV!

But motivation is limited, inspiration has an expiry date, so a clear and careful strategy is needed if you're going to make the most of your motivation.

But the good news is that you can increase your motivation levels by using hypnosis to identify what motivates you and create more motivation deep within your subconscious mind.

How to boost self-motivation with hypnosis

Some people motivate themselves by "away from" strategies like fear (avoidance of pain) and some by "towards" strategies (expectation of gain). What works best for you will depend on your own personal psychology.

The good news here is that if you feel you're lacking motivation, it may well be because you've been using the wrong strategy for your personal psychological makeup.

Hypnosis will help you identify what truly motivates you and then lead you through a deeply relaxing imaginative process to get your subconscious mind to provide the motivation you need.

In other words, this hypnosis will help you develop a determined, focused attitude that doesn't depend on your mood. That way, you can stay motivated more of the time, and achieve much, much more.

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