7 Quick Self-Esteem Tips: Start By Looking Back
I want to share my go-to self-esteem tips with you today. Realizing how far I've come and how much I can actually accomplish when I put my mind to it, is always a HUGE confidence booster for me. I'm sure it's no different for you. To be honest, there's a lot each and every one of us has done over the past few days, weeks, and even years that we can be proud of. Yet we often don't see it. There always seems to be so much left on the to-do list and to be perfectly honest, the stuff we didn't do, or the things we failed at often stand out much more than our successes. It's time to change our perspective and focus on the wins and how far we've come already.
1. Think Back to When You Did Something New for the First Time
Learning something new is often accompanied by feelings of nervousness,
lack of self belief and high stress levels, all of which are necessary
parts of the learning process. The next time you feel under-confident,
remembering this will remind you that it's perfectly normal - you're
2. Do Something You've Been Putting Off
Like writing or calling a friend, cleaning the house, tidying the
garden, fixing the car, organizing the bills, making a tasty and healthy
meal - anything that involved you making a decision, then following
3. Do Something You're Good At
Examples? How about swimming, running, dancing, cooking, gardening,
climbing, painting, writing... If possible, it should be something that
holds your attention and requires enough focus to get you into that
state of "flow" where you forget about everything else. You will feel
more competent, accomplished and capable afterwards, great antidotes to
low self esteem!
And while you're at it, seriously consider doing something like this
at least once a week. People who experience "flow" regularly seem to be
happier and healthier.
4. Stop Thinking About Yourself
I know this sounds strange, but low self-esteem is often accompanied by
too much focus on the self. Doing something that absorbs you and holds
your attention can quickly make you feel better.
5. Get Seriously Relaxed
If you are feeling low, anxious or lacking in confidence, the first
thing to do is to stop thinking and relax properly. Some people do this
by exercising, others by involving themselves in something that occupies
their mind. However, being able to relax yourself when you want is a
fantastic life skill and so practicing self hypnosis, meditation, or a
physically-based relaxation technique such as Tai Chi can be incredibly
When you are properly relaxed, your brain is less emotional and your
memory for good events works better. A great "rescue remedy!"
6. Remember All the Things You've Achieved
This can be difficult at first, but after a while, you'll develop a
handy mental list of self-esteem boosting memories. And if you're
thinking "But I've never achieved anything," I'm not talking about
climbing Everest here.
Things like passing your driving test (despite being nervous),
passing exams (despite doubting that you would), playing team sport,
getting fit (even if you let it slip later), saving money for something,
trying to help someone (even if it didn't work) and so on.
7. Remember You Could Be Wrong!
If you are feeling bad about yourself, remember that you way you feel
affects your thoughts, memory and behavior. So when you feel bad, you
will only remember the bad times, and will tend to be pessimistic about
yourself. This is where the tip "Get Seriously Relaxed" comes in! Become an explorer of life again or maybe for the first time...~ parts adapted via HypnosisDownloads.com
More Self-Esteem Tips:
Reflection & Gratitude
The simplest way to make sure you see and notice what you've accomplished and how far you've come is to get in the habit of spending a few minutes either in the morning or right before bed for reflection and gratitude.
When you wake up in the morning, before you jump out of bed, while you're drinking that first cup of coffee, or even while you're taking your shower, think about what you've accomplished and what you're grateful for. I like this morning habit because it sets a positive and confident tone for the whole day ahead. If that doesn't work for you, try it at night, before you fall asleep. Make it a daily habit and watch your confidence grow.
Journaling & Habit Trackers
If you're the type of person who needs to see it in black and white to believe it, give journaling a try. Spend a few minutes each day writing down your wins. If you're trying to establish better habits, try a habit tracker. You basically set up a grid with the habits you want to establish and little check boxes next to them. Grid paper and excel spreadsheets work well for this. Then, as you complete your habit for the day, you get to check it off. It can be very motivating to see a month's worth of little checkmarks on your habit tracker.
With the journal, make it a point to go back and review your wins on a regular basis and of course whenever you need a little boost of self-esteem and confidence. Look online for plenty of journaling and habit tracker ideas. Give the ones that look good a try and come up with a system that works for you.
Your Own Personal Cheerleader
Last but not least, consider getting your own personal cheerleader. No, I'm not suggesting you hire a person with pompoms to follow you around everywhere. Instead, find a good friend or family member who's encouraging already and ask them to cheer you on. Give them a call whenever you're feeling low, or don't want to do something so they can encourage you and cheer you on to give you that boost of confidence to do what you need to do. Of course, they should also help you by pointing out how much you've accomplished already.
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