Stop beating yourself up...Have you ever wondered how much your life would improve if you could treat yourself better? Often times, we allow a mistake or wrong decision to negatively impact our lives long after the incident occurred. By doing so, we become imprisoned by the past and unable to enjoy the present. We also end up depriving ourselves of new opportunities and experiences because we believe they are undeserved. We must “pay” for our transgression.
Stop Beating Yourself Up:
In this article, we will discuss why it is perfectly okay to stop beating yourself up over a mistake and how habitually doing so can affect your own well-being, as well as the people in your life.
Note: some of this stuff probably sounds simple in nature so I give you permission to roll your eyes now and get it out of your system! Simple is good. As humans, we have a tendency to complicate everything, even solutions! We assign greater value to that which is complex. I encourage you to curtail and ultimately cease this practice. The greatest of accomplishments begin with the daily practice of simple concepts.
In case you hadn’t noticed, human beings are literally programmed to make mistakes. We are going to screw up on small and large scales. When we are born, we are not wearing a cap and gown waving an instruction manual “diploma.” From a visual perspective, we enter this world looking like a description of life itself: beautiful, stressful, survival driven, bloody, requiring nourishment, guidance, and a good cleaning … human.
Even if there were an instruction manual detailing the correct way to handle every life scenario, we would still make mistakes. Of course, you should strive to make the right decisions and handle situations to the best of your ability, but only with the knowledge that you will not always do so. Any mistake you end up making should not come as a total surprise, but should instead serve as a reminder that you are a fallible human being, just like the billions of other fellow humans around you.
Stop Beating Yourself Up:
Instead, embrace the fact that mistakes are a mandatory part of the learning process.
Consider this, every single thing you have ever learned how to do with any level of expertise has been achieved through trial and error. This process in no way ends just because you have become an adult. For as long as you live, you will continue to encounter new situations and make new mistakes. The sooner you accept this, the faster you will break this negative cycle and experience peace.
Perfection is not the goal. It’s actually a bad sign if you ever reach a point in your life where you fail to make a mistake here and there. It means you are at a place of stagnation. It is important to consider each and every mistake as an opportunity which allows you to adjust, modify your actions and do better the next go around.
What would you tell a friend or anyone who insisted on being cruel to themselves by engaging in self-punishment? Despite what the news channels tell us, people are generally well-intentioned. We are surrounded by goodness. Almost all of us do our best to forgive other people after they have messed up. This is especially true pertaining to the people closest to us. Sure, we may be upset and even angry for a while, but we usually don’t hold the issue over the offender’s head for long periods of time. It hurts the offender and it keeps your pain well fed.
Ironically, we struggle more to forgive ourselves than to do the same for others. Considering this paradox, try to change your vantage point the next time you are avoiding granting yourself forgiveness. After all, nobody is closer to you than you. Knowing that forgiveness is a mandatory part of maintaining external relationships, you must also realize that this requirement holds true for nurturing your own mental environment. Be good to it, because wherever you go, there you are!
I wish you peace.
You are what you feed yourself. I'm not just talking about your body. You are what you feed your mind, as well. Talk to yourself. You're a whole package. Stop beating yourself up!
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